Marissa Vicario

Inner Mean Girl Be Gone – Kickin’ it all off!

Yesterday I started a new 40 day cleanse. This isn’t one of my usual raw food or juice fast cleanses, it’s a different type of cleanse designed to rid my Inner Mean Girl (IMG). We all have one. You know who she is, your worst enemy but also your best friend because while she’s your harshest critic, the two of you are inseparable. Lucky for me, I’m sending her packin’.

You see, our IMGs have been with us for years but the longer we keep them around, the more they create toxicity, stifling our personal growth, development and overall happiness. They may also drive us to hang on to other unhealthy addictions like emotional eating, smoking or sugar bingeing to name a few. Lately, I have been acutely aware of my IMG, so when I came across this cleanse on Twitter, I knew it was the Universe telling me, “enough is enough!”
Here’s a little taste of what my IMG tells me:
  • You’re not thin enough
  • Your boobs are too small
  • Your butt is too big
  • Your tummy isn’t flat enough
  • You don’t eat perfectly enough to be a health coach
  • Her blog/web site/coaching practice is better than yours
  • You’ll never stand out among the rest in this field
  • You’re a terrible girlfriend and partner
  • Most people don’t like you
As you can tell, I have a bad case of the “I’m not good enoughs” rearing its head in The Perfectionist and The Comparer. It’s a heavy load to carry aroound on a daily basis so here’s what I plan to do about it.
Awareness: This is 80 percent of the solution and as I mentioned before, I have been hyper aware of when my IMG starts to stir the pot. This is progress considering she’s been hanging out in my subconscious for 30 years without my realizing the damage she was doing. Now that she’s front and center, I can catch her red handed and stop her in her tracks. Thank you very much.

Attention: Once I notice the IMG sneaking up behind me, I give her my attention and invite her to speak to me on paper. Creating the time and a sacred space to do this is key as it allows all the toxic energy to spill out.

Allowing: The final step is to allow the Inner Kind Girl (my inner wisdom) to respond to all the junk to shift the perspective and claim my power back from the IMG and transform my story and my life. For example, and my favorite one: “My inner wisdom knows I have a gift to share with the world.”

It takes at least 30 days to create a habit so putting these steps into action over the next 40 days will rid the IMG long term and create lasting changes in perception. Over the next six weeks, I’ll be receiving weekly self love dares and I’ll share here how I’m progressing with the cleanse and the dares.

First up, Gossip! Check back in to track my progress this week.

What does your Inner Mean Girl say to you and how would your Inner Kind Girl respond?

To register for the Inner Mean Girl cleanse or sign up for Inner Mean Girl Reform School, click here.

Comments

  1. Big DAWNN! says

    Love the post. I can especially appreciate the sentiment that the IMG says things that are totally against or negate in what we are professionally trained and do well. I'm always "told" by my IMG that teaching isn't my thing or I'm not an effective mother. This cleanse has totally opened my eyes and really put those negative, toxic thoughts in bright lights for me to see, acknowledge, and put out!

    I look forward to reading more.

    https://bigdawnn.blogspot.com

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  2. Robyn says

    I love this idea! So many bloggers have been talking about putting an end to fat talk lately. It's something so hard to change after doing it your whole life, like myself. Good luck with the challenge!

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  3. Laura says

    Really interesting post – I think we all suffer from this – we are often so hard on ourselves and have trouble being kind to ourselves and our bodies. This is something I'm working on at the moment too x

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  5. MarissaRose says

    Thanks, Cari, for reading my blog! I'm glad you like it and I hope this post reminds others of the same so we can all start treating ourselves more lovingly. <3

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  6. carikamm says

    Hi Marissa –

    Very honest and insightful post. I enjoyed reading it, thanks 🙂
    A nice reminder to cut out all that inner noise so we can hear our true inner voice.

    Your blog is wonderful.

    Best,
    Cari Kamm

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